Sometimes I don’t ride or do anything with the boys. I just sit with them and that is enough. Our relationship is not based on the need to be ridden or worked with. Being with the horses, taking their photos, having a chat, a nose kissey, a mutual groom, a bit of special time is enough for all of us.
When I am moving the herd to another field, or letting everyone out to eat the grass around the house, someone usually stops for a small chat before rushing off to find their friends.
Mostly, it is Storm, Tiddles or Taktur. Food is not always their priorty. Sometimes they need to talk to me first and it makes me feel special in their eyes. I am not just she-who-fills-the-buckets.
If it is a nice day, ie not raining by my standards and I can stand up straight without hanging onto something, I will go outside and sit with the horses. Whoever wants to chat is always welcome. I don’t ask them to come to me – I wait and see who wants to talk. Usually they quietly “pop by” to have a little time with me. There is no crowding around or to bickering for my attention.
So, when I don’t ride or I leave everyone alone, I don’t feel guilty. They have each other, food and me if they need.